How About Another One?

After defining two new words for you this week, (I certainly hope you are dazzling your friends with your brilliance) my blogging buddy, Betty aka Hootnonny at Artistic Expressions Photography NC and one of my oldest,  definitely was not referring to age, only in longevity, in following my blog offered me another word....tenacious.  A little bit of schooling still remains in the old noggin because I actually knew the meaning of this word.  But for total clarification the dictionary defines tenacious as "holding together, cohesive, not easily pulled asunder, tough."  

If you are a mother or married, you are definitely tenacious in some form, either you hold everything together, you are tough, you create cohesiveness....you are definitely tenacious.  Eventho my husband and I have been married for 49 years and I consider most of those 49 years happy and filled with love we did have our moments.  About the time I was going thru my happy period (menopause) and it was definitely not "happy"....we had some rather stressful times.  I was a Bitch with a capitol B.  And I know my husband looked to others to provide him some happiness....nothing like an affair, no never, but I know he became pretty darn friendly with a certain woman at work, as well as an unhappily married woman at  church.  But we were both tenacious in our marriage, we did not want my temporary lack of happiness or his temporary need for a friendly female face to destroy what we had built together.  We held strong.

And using that first word I presented to you this week, temerity (bold and a little reckless) I have exercised some temerity in revealing this about my marriage.  I don't believe my children even knew this, may be an eye-opener for them, altho I am sure my daughter remembers my "happy" time.   Marriages are successful if they are tenacious when bumps along the way threaten to destroy the goodness of years past and the happiness of the years to come.  I know some marriages are just not meant to be and I don't believe that anyone should stick it out for the "children's sake" or perhaps because of "religious beliefs".  I cannot in my heart believe that God would want us to be locked in a marriage that causes unhappiness....He wants us to be happy and live good, whole lives, not to be stuck in a loveless marriage.  So eventho I believe strongly in the sanctity of marriage, I do not condone those that have chosen to leave an unhappy marriage.  Life is too short to not be happy.

Oh brother, Deanna, you hit the grand old age of 70 and you start preaching...

Had to stop writing this post to go and get dressed.  My friend Marti and Elaine were taking me to lunch for my birthday....continuing the celebration!!  And oh boy, did I have a surprise in store.  As I walked into the back room at the restaurant, there was a unison shout "SURPRISE"!!  Oh my goodness, the room was filled with girlfriends, all wishing me a "happy birthday".  I was totally stunned, surprised and absolutely delighted.

Tune in tomorrow for pictures!!!

I feel so very blessed to have so many friends, friends that are all so very, very special.

Until next time.....