Sunday, April 29, 2012

I Am No Hero

Time to reveal a fact....I am not a hero. Although some have called me that, I want to assure you that I am not.  I think I may have been tagged this because I became caregiver for my husband, who is suffering from Alzheimer's and my Mother who until her death about 1 1/2 years ago was 91 and in failing health.  I was labeled a hero, a saint, and that I would go straight to heaven etc etc.  Believe me, I appreciate the kind thoughts, but I do believe that all of us, given the opportunity would be heroes and you would think the same way as me.  Not a hero, just doing what needs to be done out of love.  I love my husband (you know the part about 'through sickness and in health?') and I loved my Mother.  Those last few years with her were priceless, I wouldn't trade those days in for anything. Granted there were days that if I heard "what's for dinner" one more time, I would be ready to throw in the towel.  But most days were filled with getting to know my Mother all over again.

But just to show you that I am definitely not a hero, I am going to reveal some dark secrets about myself.  Probably too much information, but this will definitely make you change your mind about me being a hero.  I do disgusting things like "pee" in the shower.  I don't know if any of you have done this, don't have to reveal if you have, but when that water starts streaming, the urge just hits.  And the clean-up is really easy while standing in the shower.  Disgusting, I know....hero? I don't think so.  Another secret, I am constantly picking my ears...they itch and I can't help but give in to the urge to pick, usually with a Q-tip, but if one is not around, I have been known to pick up a bobby-pin to relieve that tickling itch. So disgusting, am I now slipping further and further away from being your hero??  And another one, last one, I promise.  I look in the mirror (magnifying, I might add) and look for a pimple, black-head, clogged pore anything that might need some squeezing.  I know, bad, bad thing to do to your face, but again, another disgusting secret. All of these disgusting secrets (no longer!!) are done behind closed doors and will remain behind closed doors eventho I revealed them to God and all right here in print. I can just imagine what my daughter is saying about right now, that is if she is reading this, Oh Mom, how disgusting, yep.

I bet each and everyone of you have some little secrets that you keep all to yourself.  And I am certainly NOT going to ask you to share them, because they would definitely not be secrets any longer.  But my main intent in this "reveal" was to wash away any thoughts that I could possibly be a hero, what hero pees in the shower, picks their ears and squeezes whatever on their face and then has the "gall" to put it all on a blog??

These are the heroes of my Mother and my Husband in earlier times, Easter 2010.

"Treasure each other in the recognition that we do not know how long we will have each other."  ~  Joshua Liebman

Until next time.....


  1. LMAO!!! If I was drinking milk...for sure I would have shot it through my nose! I DID NOT see that coming! You know...reveals put you a higher plain cause it shows that you are a regular folk! Guess what? I pee too in the shower...lmao why goes right down the drain and you aint so easy holding it in anymore! Your husband is a doll Deanna....I bet you fell for them baby blues huh? Your mom is beautiful. I think what people like you are a dying breed and do you want to know why? It's all about them. People forget you take vows before G-d. And honoring your parents is a matter what your faith.
    Have a great week!

  2. Eww you pee in the shower. I'll never think of you the same way again. Hee hee. My grandmother always said "God has a sense of humor". This weekend was filled with things that kept me saying "could it get any worse?" I would have loved to pick up the phone and talked to my grandmother, but she has passed away. I know she would have said, "God has a sense of humor." And somehow find the good side of it all. I am sure you were a hero to your mother and you are a hero to many other people in your life. Heros have to pee to you know :)

  3. Well, it backfired Deanna .... cause now I KNOW you are a hero for admitting peeing in the shower! Okay, so WHO hasn't? LOL

    Love you! : )

  4. I have never peed in the shower and the thought had never occurred to me until a few years ago when I was with a group of women and they had all peed in the shower! So funny. I'm still not going to do it but I don't think any less of you. You are human, Deanna! I don't know about being a hero but I can tell that you are a really good, authentic person. My secret or confession... I'm a stay-at-home mom and a lousy housekeeper, I have piles and stacks everywhere. And I don't like to cook or wash dishes. And yes, I feel guilty about it all. I can think of a million things I'd rather do and I usually do those things rather than keep house.

  5. LOL, you crack me up. I'm guilty of two out of three...peeing and picking. Never thought I would admit to that.
    Wonderful photos of your mother and husband,

  6. So entertaining! but I'm not going to reveal anything :)
    Wonderful photo of your husband and mother - thanks for sharing this.

  7. Lol you had me laughing here. Way to put it out there Deanna. Weather we like it or not and weather we see ourselves as a hero or not at sometime in our lives we will end up doing something or saying something that makes a hero to someone. I am one that thinks the way you do. We just do what needs to be done-see a need fill a need. Simple fact is that there are not enough people living in this way. So when you do something that is the right thing then you become a hero to those around you when really all you are doing is what needs to be done.

    @ 3Beeze Homestead

  8. And after reading this... you are even more of a hero ♥

  9. Too funny!! I still think you are a pretty awesome lady! :)

  10. I love this post, Deanna! You are my kind of gal!

  11. This post made me laugh out loud and it made me sigh ..... and having revealed your secrets has made you a bigger HERO in my eyes! You sound absolutely awesome! P.S. I have peed in the shower!


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