Sunday, January 29, 2012

Giving Advice to Myself

I am in a funk....haven't left the house in 2 days, didn't even get dressed today.  I have sunk into a funkiness that has enveloped me in a little self-pity.  Do you ever get that way?  Please tell me yes.  No matter how many blessings we have, I think ever once in awhile we tend to fall off of the "everything is wonderful" train and fall into that pity ditch.  Nothing is particularly wrong, my sweetie had a good check-up and a good outing on Friday.  He is back to his sweet self, got out of the funk he was in and is back on track with eating and even talking quite a bit.  So what happened to me??  Maybe it is because last week was our 48th Wedding Anniversary and this whole week I keep thinking of how it should be, not how it is.  How each year we would take a little trip, usually to either Lake Geneva, WI or Galena, IL, both lovely places for a quick Anniversary celebration get-a-way to commemorate the day.  We would always stay at the same place, eat at the same restaurants, walk the same streets, most everything the same each year, but we did it together.

If I were giving advice to myself, I would definitely recommend that I get out of the house, do something fun, and remember, yes, remember ALL of my blessings.  It's often easier to be wiser for others than for ourselves .  When we ask others for advice, we know what is right, we know which path we should take, we already know the answers to our questions.  So, I need to take my own advice, get out of this funk, remember the good and do something fun.  Tomorrow night is our annual Pajama Bunco that should be fun.

And enjoying a cup of Earl Grey in this sweet cup is sure to get me out of my funk....

"It is a good divine that follows his own instructions"  ~  William Shakespeare

Until next time....


  1. i'm going to send you a poem i love to read ... i read it when i need to feel lifted up. i'm saying a prayer for you. sending big hugs too. we all have moments. & there is nothing wrong with it. keep the faith. (:

  2. Understandable you may have a harder time as special occasions come around. Your own advise sounds good, in an encouraging way.
    I love your tea cup, prettier than any I've seen.

  3. You can't control the way you feel. Even though you may have lots to be thankful for in life, it's okay to sometimes feel a bit down. I think the only time it starts to become a problem is when it's continuous and starts to drastically affect your life. Maybe you just need a little time to yourself and then once you reconnect with people, like tomorrow at Bunco, you'll be back to your old self. Hugs ♥

  4. Ahh, do hope you're feeling a bit better. I do get down sometimes, like a black cloud is hanging over me and it is hard to shake off. I try to remember that it is my mind and thoughts that create my emotions, so I try to think/do something else. That cup is so pretty - I've just discovered Lady Grey tea which I love, have you tried it? Lovely. Take care of yourself xx

  5. What a pretty cup of tea.
    You are entitle to feel a little low, nothing wrong with that. Follow your own advice and go and have some fun with your friends.

  6. I agree with Tricia -- allow yourself to feel what you want and need to feel. I tried to keep it all together when my dad was going through this and one day, for no reason, I just broke down and cried, all by myself, with no warning at all.

    Big hugs and lots of understanding... :)

  7. Things have a way of creeping up on you without you realising and suddenly bang. I've been in a similar place a few times so sort of know how you're feeling but don't get too uptight about it as it will pass, we are all allowed to get a bit low sometimes. I find if I take a walk somewhere nice it helps, I can feel all the bad stuff lifting and come home feeling better. Suzy x

  8. Hi Deanna,

    Yes, as much as I try to count my blessings and be thankful, I too have been a bit of a funk myself. My husband has Dementia, and sometimes he'll be okay for weeks at a time, and then I fall into that forgetfulness. Once something happens to remind me of this ugly disease, whether it's something that he does that reminds me, or a memory of the way things used to be...I get sad. I actually think that it is part of the grief. Either way your advice to get out of the house and do something fun, is great advice. Meanwhile I am so glad to have found you and your lovely blog. I'm sending blessings and thanks, I need your words today.

  9. What an adorable tea cup! I most definitely have days of funk for no reason. In fact, just last night I sat down on the couch and just felt like crying...for no apparent reason! I know I always look forward to a night out with the girls! I am sure pajama night will be a ton of fun!

  10. If you're going to stay, drink your coffee and tea in pretty cups! The pajama bunco party sounds like fun (my group never thought to have such fun!)

  11. You can't fight it, you need to acknowledge it. It is grief and mourning. I can feel it coming like a black cloud when it happens to me. And I don't leave the house either. I won't even get dressed, I'll just stay in my pjs and feel sorry for myself for awhile. But don't let it take over your life for too long. Acknowledge it and then kick it the heck out :). A good girls night out should help, have fun!


  12. I hope your cup of tea cheered you somewhat. It really is pretty to behold.

  13. Just drinking out of that cup would get me out of a funk.. Its so cute.. I do hope you feel better. But I have to say you have every right to feel a little down. I have a feeling your not the type to stay down to long!! You always seem like a happy camper to me!!

    Take care my friend..

    Hugs, Linda

  14. Don't be hard on yourself for this "funk" Deanna.
    You are always so upbeat and have such a wonderful spirit.
    It is easy to understand that this must be a particularly difficult time.

  15. Oh, yes. I know this well. I've been feeling this way all week. It's a process. You have a lot on your plate, but you have such a good attitude about life that will help get you through it. ((hug))

    Happy 48th anniversary. Btw: I recognize the tea tag. :)


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